About a year ago, if you had asked me if I was a jealous person, I would have confidently said no. I sincerely believed that I was secure in my own lane, doing my own thing, until God called me out on my bluff.

There was a lady on social media that I was secretly obsessed with. I would stalk her on instagram every single day. She seemed to be living the life that I believed I should have been living. I did not follow her instagram page but behind closed doors, I would complain to EVERYONE about ANYTHING she did that I deemed negative.

One night, I was going on another rant about the “wrongdoings” of this lady until my sister finally had enough and asked me to shut it down. For some reason, this caused me to wonder why I spoke so much about this lady. In that moment, God revealed to me that I was actually jealous of this woman.

At first, I doubted it. After all, I did not consider myself a jealous person. But, after looking at all the signs, I realized I was indeed jealous. It shocked and saddened me.

I then became determined to rid myself of jealousy. I realized it was an ugly and sneaky character trait and I in no way, shape, or form wanted anything to do with it.

In today’s episode, I share the things I did to overcome jealousy of this woman and how I continue to reject jealousy in my daily life.




With love,

Emem Joy Emah

I had been in a difficult place for a long time…

It felt like everyone was progressing but me. I kept praying and asking… what am I missing?!

You know what I’m talking about…

You know the feeling…

You know what it feels like to experience tough times and feel like you are in it all by yourself. You know what it feels like when  everyone seems to have it all figured out BUT YOU…

I was in this place for yearsss

I felt stuck

Was I doing something wrong?

Was this some sort of punishment from God?

I did everything I was supposed to do and nothing was working…

Unfortunately this led to a breakdown. But this breakdown caused me to finally realize the missing piece that changed everything.

I share that one missing ingredient on today’s episode of Take a Shot! with Emem Joy Emah




Friend…as always,  I hope this episode brings hope and peace to whatever circumstance you might be facing today.

With love, 

Emem Joy Emah

Growing up, I had verrrrryyyyy low self-esteem.  I never thought I was beautiful. I never thought I was intelligent. I longed for someone to affirm me.. to tell me I was beautiful, capable, intelligent, enough..

As I grew older and matured, I realized that I did not want to continue living my life with low self-esteem. I wanted for once in my life to feel bold, strong, confident, intelligent, beautiful, fearless, and unapologetically me. So, I decided to do something about it.

I am still on this journey of unearthing the bold, confident, strong, beautiful, fearless and unapologetic woman that I am. However, I have learned some things along the way that I would like to share with you.

On today’s episode of “Take A Shot with Emem Joy Emah”, I share with you 5 ways I learned to build my self-esteem.



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Friend, I hope this episode inspires you to go on a journey to unearth the strong, capable, intelligent, fearless, brave, beautiful, YOU that you are.

With lots of love,

Emem Joy Emah

Hey Friend!

Did you catch Ciara’s level up video?! If you haven’t been living under a rock, I’m sure you have. I absolutely LOVE that video/song. (welllll… actually, I  just love Ciara so I am definitely biased).

But what I love more than the song and video is the message of “leveling up”.

To me, leveling up is the willing act of releasing everything that weighs you down in order to evolve into a greater version of yourself.

  • That greater version of yourself is unapologetic.
  • That greater version of yourself realizes he or she owes NO ONE ANYTHING.
  • That greater version of yourself knows his or her worth.
  • That greater version of yourself is committed to leaving a mark on this world by pursuing purpose.
  • That greater version of yourself is the person you’ve always dreamed of becoming.


BUTTT let’s keep it alllll the way REAL…

Getting to this place is not easy. It requires making some hard decisions. Sometimes, it requires loss.


Dissolving a friendship can be a very painful experience. However, you will find that as you are evolving, not everyone can go where you are going. And truthfully, that’s a tough pill to swallow especially when you expect a life-long friendship.


But often, this is what leveling up demands. It requires taking honest inventory and realizing when two roads are beginning to diverge.


On today’s episode, I share with you three signs that your friendship might be over.



Friend…I sincerely hope this episode is an eye-opener on your journey to leveling up.


Here’s to your glow up,

Emem Joy Emah



Some years back, I remember listening to a radio DJ and heard him mocking those that were in a quarter life crisis. On one hand, I understood that it was just entertainment and he was doing his job. On the other hand, I thought, “how many people think this way?!” How many people actually think of a quarter life crisis as a mockery and not an actual CRISIS?!


Transitioning to adulthood is not an easy feat but when you are in the thick of it, with NO sense of direction — it’s confusing, stressful, and can feel like your whole world is upside down. It  feels like you’ve been thrown into adulthood to figure crap out on your own. To make things worse, loved ones have their plethora of reaalllllyyyyyyy annoying and stressful opinions and questions  they like to hurl such as….


  • What are going to do when you graduate?
  • When are you going to get married?
  • When are you going to get a real job?
  • ______________________________ you fill in the blank. I’m sure you’ve got TONS more.


What bothers me about this is how normalized its become. It’s almost like going through a quarter life crisis is a right of passage in your twenties. Welllllll, I don’t believe It’s normal. Let’s call a spade a spade, it’s a state of CRISIS. Having NO idea what to do with your life, no blueprint to follow, and expectations from loved ones to somehow figure it all out on your own is CRAZY.

What’s EXTRA annoying?! All the algebra, geometry, and calculus we learned can’t provide solutions to ANY of these problems. Hmmm… I wonder why?!?!


As you can probably tell, I am VERY passionate about this. I am passionate because I went through this and I HATED  every second of it. I am grateful to God and the amazing group of mentors He placed in my life to help me walk out of my crisis.


As always, it is my absolute delight to share what I know in hopes that someone struggling with this can find some hope.



If you are in the middle of your own quarter life crisis, you are not alone. I sincerely hope today’s episode will shed some light on an otherwise dark time.

Sending you peace, joy, and love,

Emem Joy Emah

Throughout my life, I have been obsessed with the idea of purpose. I have always had a desire to do something meaningful and impactful with my life, but while growing up, I wasn’t quite sure what that was. I often felt lost, confused, and lacked direction.

I remember kneeling by my bedside asking God to help me find what I was supposed to do with my life. I had a great hunger to know.

During my college years, I went through a very traumatic experience. That experience became a turning point in my journey to FINALLY gaining clarity about my purpose.

On today’s latest episode, I share that experience and the things I’ve learned so far with you.

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Friend, I hope that as you hear my story, you would be ignited on your purpose journey. I hope that my experience ignites a desire to believe again, to dream again, and against all the odds KNOW that you too are destined for something wonderful.


Purpose looks good on you,

Emem Joy Emah



My sister and I were having another one of our insightful conversations when she brought up a powerful lesson my father taught her.


She wanted to ask him for something but was hesitant to ask because she didn’t want to hear him say no.


My father perplexed at her hesitancy, took the time to teach her a powerful lesson that stuck with her and has gotten her through some of the most challenging seasons of her life. He said:


“If you want something, just ask. Don’t be afraid of hearing no. Has a no ever killed you?! If you hear a no, at least now you know.”


When my sister shared this with me, it felt like it was the missing piece to my puzzle. It caused me to realize my fear of hearing no (really, my fear of rejection) was holding me back from getting the things I wanted. I immediately felt a release to simply ask.


This week, I challenge you to ask. Speak up and ask God, family members, friends, co-workers, supervisors, and even strangers for what you want. Remember, the worst you can hear is no but at least you asked.


Remember to ASK for what you want this week!


Your brave is showing,