Some years back, I remember listening to a radio DJ and heard him mocking those that were in a quarter life crisis. On one hand, I understood that it was just entertainment and he was doing his job. On the other hand, I thought, “how many people think this way?!” How many people actually think of a quarter life crisis as a mockery and not an actual CRISIS?!
Transitioning to adulthood is not an easy feat but when you are in the thick of it, with NO sense of direction — it’s confusing, stressful, and can feel like your whole world is upside down. It feels like you’ve been thrown into adulthood to figure crap out on your own. To make things worse, loved ones have their plethora of reaalllllyyyyyyy annoying and stressful opinions and questions they like to hurl such as….
- What are going to do when you graduate?
- When are you going to get married?
- When are you going to get a real job?
- ______________________________ you fill in the blank. I’m sure you’ve got TONS more.
What bothers me about this is how normalized its become. It’s almost like going through a quarter life crisis is a right of passage in your twenties. Welllllll, I don’t believe It’s normal. Let’s call a spade a spade, it’s a state of CRISIS. Having NO idea what to do with your life, no blueprint to follow, and expectations from loved ones to somehow figure it all out on your own is CRAZY.
What’s EXTRA annoying?! All the algebra, geometry, and calculus we learned can’t provide solutions to ANY of these problems. Hmmm… I wonder why?!?!
As you can probably tell, I am VERY passionate about this. I am passionate because I went through this and I HATED every second of it. I am grateful to God and the amazing group of mentors He placed in my life to help me walk out of my crisis.
As always, it is my absolute delight to share what I know in hopes that someone struggling with this can find some hope.
If you are in the middle of your own quarter life crisis, you are not alone. I sincerely hope today’s episode will shed some light on an otherwise dark time.
Sending you peace, joy, and love,
Emem Joy Emah